Oh my...today has been one of the most trying days since my return to Nigeria. For anyone thinking of coming to work in Nigeria, please really think long and hard. When I post these things online, it's not that i'm trying to be overly dramatic, or unnecessarily negative, but I just want people to know the real of what I myself is going through. On top of that, I think i've said many times that coming to Nigeria for the time i've been here, has been an invaluable experience for me. I'd never take back the year. It's allowed me to learn more about myself and my personal and career goals than I would have if I had never moved here. There have been fun times, amazing times, but today is not one of them.
Many times, a lot of people in Nigeria, can not understand how a young person can be driven, ambitious, and successful in the workplace, based on hardwork and dedication, pure luck, and the right opportunities. I've been lucky in the sense that I found someone to guide me and whom I could look up to professionally without really searching for one. Right opportunities because they've been available and i've taken full advantage of them, and hardwork and dedication because I really poured myself into whatever project I've been working on. However as a young professional person in Nigeria, people expect you to be docile and quiet, to be a sort of shrinking violent, you know, the kind of thing that you are to be seen but not heard. And even as a woman, I can imagine that you certainly shouldn't be aggressive. I've essentially been told ALL of these today.
My problem is I don't know how to be ALL of that. And more importantly for me, I want my work to be what's important about me, not my accent, or my cultural attitudes, or gender, or even age. A friend of mine once said to me, "I can't work in Nigeria because I can't work in a country where you can never move ahead on merit." It's not a sort of glass ceiling issue oh, or even that you don't need some sort of "office politics" high IQ, but the fact that what you do almost always counts for nothing or can count for nothing at the drop of a dime. I never really understood how right that statement was until today.
However sha, I believe in the end, once you are confident about who you are, where you stand, what you've said, and your actions, the true story will always make way for you. You will always have the last laugh. Truly as I'm writing this i'm already feeling victorious because at the end of the day, I wasn't blown away by all the jealousy, envy, and maliciousness that was unleashed on me today. People can't understand why God continues to bless you so they try to cut you down. But sometimes God wants to show you just how great his promises in your life are and I'll leave it at that!
A lot of this may seem weird or disjointed, but shoo.........i saw that Tyra episode, I ain't about to give anyone an excuse to shut me down!
Happy Valentine's Day!
Wow, so it's that day yet again. You know my most memorable Valentine's was last year and it had nothing to do with romance. Orientation camp started Feb.14, and that is a day that will now be forever etched in my mind. For me it always be a special day to be celebrated.......i got out, i got out, i got out! Lol.Was watching E! News Daily 10 and Ryan mentioned something about Feb.15 being "Singles Awareness Day", how sad, lol. Us singles are not so bitter we want our OWN day, hell, we want what all y'all heffas have. Lol, don't mind me jare...
Anyway, I've been reading around blogville and i must say i didn't know we had so many romantics. Uzo has inspired me with her blog so here let me offer up a bit of what's going on through my mind:
Many of us are afraid of letting go
Afraid of feeling that hurt that someone else has left behind
Let go of that baggage
It's dragging you down and keeping others from seeing the beauty of you
What may come will come
But today's may be the one
thank you, thank you very much, i'll be here all night ladies and gentlemen. LOL. Nah, but to the special someone who may or may not be...you are a wonderful person, not because of what you can give, or because of the material things in your life, it's not because of who you know or where you've been. It's because you are a man who has managed to overcome those obstacles and managed to mold himself into something beautiful through hardwork, dedication, and faith.
Ok, enjoy lover's day y'all!
The Three Memes
I haven't done a meme in a little while so I found one on Daddy's Girl's blog and liked it so here u go!
Three things I do not want to experience:
1. A true heartbreak again!
2. Losing a sibling, or a child
3. Bad turbulence in an airplane
Three people who make me laugh:
1. Lanrie
2. C
3. Koko!
Three things I love:
1. Music
2. Photography
3. Going out to restaurants
Three things I hate:
1. Duplicitous People
2. Liver
3. Taking out the trash..lol
Three things I don’t understand:
1. Economics - seriously, how did i pass this class? i'm clueless!
2. Whitney? Ray J?
3. What is it that Ray J has?!?! what?
Three things on my desk:
1. Photo of my baby cuz!
2. Post Its
3. Files to "Pass On"
Three things I’m doing right now:
1. Wondering what the hell I left on my desk...
2. Typing on the comp...duh!
3. Praying that all goes well on friday!
Three things I want to do before I die:
1. Go to Seychelles Island
2. Vacation at St. Tropez
3. Grow old!
Three things I can do:
1. Take really nice pics
2. Give good business advice
3. Be on time for appointments, meetings, etc.
Three things you should listen to:
1. Contemporary Arabic music
2. The laughter of a child
3. 50s music
Three things you should never listen to:
1. People who belittle you and your dreams
2. Negativity and Pessimism
3. Hard Rock music......lol
Three things I’d like to learn:
1. Arabic
2. How to play the piano
3. A & I
Three beverages I drink regularly:
1. Fanta Orange (i know, but that 36 degree weather ain't a joke!)
2. Water
3. Pineapple and Orange
Three TV shows I watched on NTA as a kid:
1. I don't remember any of this crap...
Three Books I read as a kid:
1. This book about some little people in their little village, it was weird!
2. Weirdly enough, a few years later, The Hobbit
3. Jane Eyre
Three things I do not want to experience:
1. A true heartbreak again!
2. Losing a sibling, or a child
3. Bad turbulence in an airplane
Three people who make me laugh:
1. Lanrie
2. C
3. Koko!
Three things I love:
1. Music
2. Photography
3. Going out to restaurants
Three things I hate:
1. Duplicitous People
2. Liver
3. Taking out the trash..lol
Three things I don’t understand:
1. Economics - seriously, how did i pass this class? i'm clueless!
2. Whitney? Ray J?
3. What is it that Ray J has?!?! what?
Three things on my desk:
1. Photo of my baby cuz!
2. Post Its
3. Files to "Pass On"
Three things I’m doing right now:
1. Wondering what the hell I left on my desk...
2. Typing on the comp...duh!
3. Praying that all goes well on friday!
Three things I want to do before I die:
1. Go to Seychelles Island
2. Vacation at St. Tropez
3. Grow old!
Three things I can do:
1. Take really nice pics
2. Give good business advice
3. Be on time for appointments, meetings, etc.
Three things you should listen to:
1. Contemporary Arabic music
2. The laughter of a child
3. 50s music
Three things you should never listen to:
1. People who belittle you and your dreams
2. Negativity and Pessimism
3. Hard Rock music......lol
Three things I’d like to learn:
1. Arabic
2. How to play the piano
3. A & I
Three beverages I drink regularly:
1. Fanta Orange (i know, but that 36 degree weather ain't a joke!)
2. Water
3. Pineapple and Orange
Three TV shows I watched on NTA as a kid:
1. I don't remember any of this crap...
Three Books I read as a kid:
1. This book about some little people in their little village, it was weird!
2. Weirdly enough, a few years later, The Hobbit
3. Jane Eyre
Hola, y otra cosas......
ok.......so my spanish grammar needs constant polishing, lol! How are all of y'all doing out there in blogville? Good. I'm just peachy!
Gotta say my NYSC post got quite a few comments, online and offline. A few people told me "wait till NYSC catches you" lol and others were just grateful to have the info. I'm still happy to post it sha, sometimes, u just needs to know! lol!
I'm vacationing right now.........YAY!!!..........and boy is it COLD! I hope i haven't turned into one of those relatives that come visiting and complain (is that the right spelling? it's looking weird to me..) about how ilu oyinbo (white people's country) is cold! i'm always thinking at the time these people say that like.........uhm, yeah sherlock, it's north america, we have winter here....at least look up "winter" in the dictionary before your "big trip" lol! i'm so afraid i'm turning local...i mean my cousin went to prepare chocolate pudding for her daughter yesterday and guess what the first thing that came out of my mouth was??? "you're making her ogi?!?" LOL, i mean really. I see a dark paste and the first thought in my head was ogi! And then my phone needed to be recharged and as I was going to bed, i was thinking "i better charge that thing before they take the light"........'Nuff said.
I need detoxing fast ma people....anyway, wedding television is calling, i guess i'll blog tomorrow!
Gotta say my NYSC post got quite a few comments, online and offline. A few people told me "wait till NYSC catches you" lol and others were just grateful to have the info. I'm still happy to post it sha, sometimes, u just needs to know! lol!
I'm vacationing right now.........YAY!!!..........and boy is it COLD! I hope i haven't turned into one of those relatives that come visiting and complain (is that the right spelling? it's looking weird to me..) about how ilu oyinbo (white people's country) is cold! i'm always thinking at the time these people say that like.........uhm, yeah sherlock, it's north america, we have winter here....at least look up "winter" in the dictionary before your "big trip" lol! i'm so afraid i'm turning local...i mean my cousin went to prepare chocolate pudding for her daughter yesterday and guess what the first thing that came out of my mouth was??? "you're making her ogi?!?" LOL, i mean really. I see a dark paste and the first thought in my head was ogi! And then my phone needed to be recharged and as I was going to bed, i was thinking "i better charge that thing before they take the light"........'Nuff said.
I need detoxing fast ma people....anyway, wedding television is calling, i guess i'll blog tomorrow!