20 Kids, 20 Years

There's a saying that "20 kids cannot play for 20 years". I love this statement/proverb so much. The first time I heard it was in Yoruba from my mom so I don't really know if it's actually a Yoruba proverb translated or vice versa. Still, it's so apt.

I always say to anybody that will listen, my best friends today are those friends that I knew while in college. For some reason, they're looking to buck the 20 kids/20 years proven proverb. These guys are all one in a million. Over the years we've laughed, we've cried, we've fought, we've loved, we've pretty much been with and supported each other true a myriad of emotions. These guys are the one that increasingly, I find myself running back to whenever I want to have a REAL conversation. I can't say how much I appreciate their love and kindness. The older I get the more I realize that real true friends, who want the best for you always, who know you inside and out and accept you and love you for who you are, are really, really rare gems. One of my closest friends of this bunch I havent even seen in years, but still there's nothing like that one hour conversation where you just run through the entire list of happenings and before you even say one thing or the other, they just get where you're coming from. Gosh, I'm so blessed to have these people in my life.

Now back to that proverb up there. You're probably wondering ok, so what's the connection then. Well I think the conneciton for me is that people move in and out of your life very quickly. Most don't want to bother to see you, I mean really see you. If you have 20 kids on a playground it is very very unlikely that those children as they grow older and "wiser" will learn to appreciate and love each other more. Rather it's the opposite. As they know each other more, their human flaws come out with claws. Life throws us all together in the wash and by the time we get our bearings we're all a little washed out.

Either way, I thank God immensely for those friends I made in college who years later are still sticking by me, caring about me, and renewing my faith in friendships. I'm lucky to have them.

6 comments:

Tella said...

Nice post...totally get the whole true friendship thing, people tend to ahve fewer friends as they get older just because it's hard to come by.

Anonymous said...

Can u update this blog please and thanks?

QMoney said...

Hi Lola,it's unfortunate we share a similar bad experience but that's the reality of life.thanks for sharing and thanks for all the advice,i appreciate

Yes oh,i think its even easier to have 20friends in primary/secondary school than it is to have in uni or at work......how much more the ones that will now last forever....

Miss Healthy Diva said...

I've never heard that proverb before but that is very true. Some friends come into our lives for just a season...others for a lifetime. I'm glad for the lessons I've learned from all of them. Like you, some of my closest friends are from my undergrad days...

Diamond Are Forever said...

Waiting for fresh contents plssss.

anyway 20 kids means lots of excess weight

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